- Being married is – to put it simply – better than being single. More fulfilling. Better for your personal development. Better for children.
- The process of courtship is the way (according to this author) to best make the incredible decision of who to marry.
One of my favorite parts of this piece is the story Kass tells about her student who, when asked the question, “what’s the most important decision you’ll make in your life” said, “deciding who should be the mother of my children.”
- Finding the right parter is about a long and purposeful test drive
- We don't (usually) do that these days because we're more independent and sexually liberated
- And so we give each other a kind of "access" that rushes things, skipping the process of forming a bond
Do I think you can have a lasting and fulfilling marriage if you sleep together on the first date? Yes, I do. Do I think you can have one if you move in together before you get married? Also yes. My issue with this article is that it suggets that a very specific courtship is mutually exclusive to good marriage. I don't think that's true, but I do agree with a lot of the thought process around why it works.
Which, once again, it brings me to the question I'm terrified to tackle. What if the sexual revolution got reversed? How would that happen? What would that look like? And how would we all come out on the other side?
But that's for another 5,000 word morning...