question for you
and id like your reaction
Chris: "i think the young culture has gotten to a point where calling has become chivalrous"
Chris: kind of awful
me: really, really awful
but really true
Chris: has calling become a turn-off?
I think it's become an easy way to really show someone you care
Chris: but it's not a turnoff?
me: not for me
Chris: in the age of flings and detachment, isnt it too formal?
me: but girls aren't all the same
And I'd prefer the age of flings and detachment end
Chris: ha, praise the gospel sister
me: so if I called a guy
and that annoyed him a ton
I'd stop seeing him
and if you call a girl
and she's like, "ew why is he calling me"
she's a bitch
i think people equate calling with pleated pants
that's so fucking sad
Chris: they both exist, and some people use them both, but mostly just older people out of touch with style
me: well I'm fighting that
I feel like this calls for one of those SNL Weekend Update segments where they go really?! REALLY?! Calling someone on the phone is a turn-off?! REALLY?!!?!
That aside, this is a moment for learning.
Sometimes in order to understand the random crap details of dating you have to reverse into things. Instead of, "should I make X move" or "should I make Y gesture" it's if I make X move or Y gesture and the person is turned off, what does that say about the person I'm pursuing.
Applied to this issue that would read as, "if I decide to call the girl I'm interested in dating versus just text her and she's totally turned off by that, what does that mean?"
It means one of two things. She is a sad, strange woman who's lost all ability to talk on the phone or she's not into you. Call me harsh, but there's not a WORLD in which someone should say, "I was really liking him but then he called me. Like on the phone. I mean, can we say dealbreaker??"
Same applies the other way around. If you're calling a guy incessantly and he's calling you back a tad less, fine. He's a guy. They don't love the phone, as discussed. But if you're calling a guy every so often and he's exclusively texting you back, weird/rude. And if a guy ever says to you, "I think talking on the phone is out-dated," run.
It's the phone people. Think of it like having a conversation in person except with technology that allows you to be in two different places.
Is talking on the phone antiquated? Yes. Does that mean doing it has turned into a turn-off? I'm going to say no. Really no. Please please please really no.
*it's Blondie because she sang "Call Me."